Therapy for people who are tired of losing themselves in relationships.
Do you find yourself putting everyone else first, struggling to say no, or wondering why relationships seem to leave you feeling drained rather than fulfilled?
Perhaps you spend a lot of time thinking about what other people need, while finding it difficult to identify what you need.
Maybe you feel responsible for other people`s feelings, struggle with guilt when you set boundaries, or repeatedly find yourself in relationships where you give more than receive.
You may understand what`s happening intellectually, but still find yourself repeating the same patterns.
Therapy can help you understand why.
The way we relate to ourselves and others doesn`t develop in vacuum.
Our early experiences can shape what we come to believe about ourselves, our needs and our relationships. We may learn to keep the peace, avoid conflict, take responsibility for other people`s emotions, or make ourselves smaller in order to feel safe or loved.
These patterns can continue into adulthood - often without us consciously choosing them.
Together, we can explore where your patterns come from, how they affect your relationships now, and what you would like to change.
You may be struggling with:
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Difficult or emotionally complicated relationships
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People pleasing and putting yourself last
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Difficulty setting or maintaining boundaries
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Low self-worth or constantly questioning yourself
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Feeling responsible for other people`s emotions
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Anxiety and emotional overwhelm
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The effects of childhood experiences or trauma
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Emotionally immature or emotionally unavailable parents
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Recovering from controlling or emotionally abusive relationships
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Repeating relationship patterns that you don`t understand
A space to understand yourself - not judge yourself
I offer integrative psychotherapy, which means I draw on different therapeutic approaches and tailor the work to you rather than trying to fit you into a particular formula.
I believe therapy should be a place where you can be honest about what is happening in your life without being judged.
The aim isn`t to blame your past or label the people in your life.
What happened to you matters - but so does what happens next.
You don`t have to keep putting yourself last
Learning to recognise your needs, communicate your boundaries and trust your own feelings can take time.
Therapy isn`t about becoming a different person.
It`s about becoming more connected to yourself, so that you can make choices from a place of greater awareness rather than fear, guilt or old patterns.
If this sounds familiar, I`d be happy to talk with you about whether therapy might be right for you.
Fill in the "contact form" to arrange your free 15-minute chat to discover whether working with me is the right next step for you.
